Love Is Love: One MilSpouse’s Reaction to the Same-Sex Marriage Decision

Love Is Love: One MilSpouse’s Reaction to Same-Sex Marriage Decision

by Norine, Guest Contributor

As a country and nation we can now celebrate National LGBT Pride Month to the fullest because on Friday, the Supreme Court ruled in favor 5-4 approving same-sex marriage legalization. The Internet, including social media outlets like Facebook and Twitter, were showered with rainbow posts of support all day celebrating this historic decision.

Love Is Love: One MilSpouse’s Reaction to Same-Sex Marriage Decision

Forever in our nation’s history June 26, 2015, will be the day remembered as the day equality was seen and finally shared with all.

In Justice Anthony Kennedy’s closing opinion he beautifully stated, “No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were.”

Countless showed their support of the Supreme Court decision by sharing pictures or tweeting.

Music artists such as Smash Mouth made headlines tweeting their support:

There were contrasting reactions within conservative religious communities, which is understandable because not everyone holds the same views.

The Duggar family’s official Facebook account posted the below photo on and vaguely commented shortly after the Supreme Court ruling, “Praying for our nation today.”

Military Spouse Reaction to SCOTUS Same-Sex Marriage Decision

Even conservative political figures such as Presidential candidate Jeb Bush stated, “Guided by my faith, I believe in traditional marriage. I believe the Supreme Court should have allowed the states to make this decision.”

Let’s remember that as our country was forming our Founding Fathers stated,

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.

Declaration of Independence

The greatest thing about America is that each and every one of us has the right to believe what we want and live our lives the way we see fit within the laws of the land. Our Constitution grants all citizens freedom of speech.

The pursuit of happiness means something a little different to each and every one of us. In my opinion, we witnessed our government at its finest early Friday morning with the ruling to legalize same-sex marriage in all 50 states.

I feel utter jubilant for families all across the United States who were once fragmented by law that will now be reunited by law.

Today and every day going forward is a great day because now I can share with all in the wondrous joy knowing same-sex marriage is legal.

For me personally marriage has always been something I wanted. After coming out, I wanted to get married, although same-sex marriage wasn’t possible for gay people like me.

As I dated, I still longed to plan my wedding even if my Prince Charming happened to be a princess instead. I still wanted the full rights of marriage. I still wanted to be recognized as having a wife. I felt devastated that I was dreaming of my future but would be denied of my rights to love someone else. I accepted the fact same-sex marriage might not be an option in my foreseeable future.

I researched domestic partnerships for future reference. I found there were still 1,138 fundamental rights I would be denied in a domestic partnership. I figured if I couldn’t have the full rights of marriage at least I could have some, but it was upsetting knowing I wouldn’t be completely protected by the law like everyone else because of my sexual orientation.

And don’t even get me started about family planning and having children. There would be a lot of hoops to jump through for being gay and wanting to have a family of my own.

Yes, my family would look different but so what? Wasn’t I entitled to create my life on my own terms?

For a long time I had the hardest time coming out to my parents because of the stigma of being gay in the United States in the early 2000s. I knew when I found the love of my life there would be no stopping me. And what do you know? I eventually found the love of my life. I finally came out to my parents and began living my life more fully without fear.

I am fortunate enough to live in California. A few years ago when Prop 8 was struck down in California I was able to legally marry my now wife in a small private ceremony. I share my story and know there are millions of stories and memories finally being able to be told because of the same-sex marriage ruling.

I love this quote from Sergeant Leonard P. Matlovich who said, “…I want you to look at the flag, our rainbow flag, and I want you to look at it with pride in your heart, because we too have a dream. And what is our dream? Ours is more than an American dream. It’s a universal dream. And our mission is to reach out and teach people to love, and not to hate.”

With the Supreme Court ruling, we are now living the universal dream, that so many before us could only imagine that love conquers all–love is love.

NorineNorine Holguin is the author of OMG Lesbian Army Wife blog on Tumblr and website creator of lesbianarmywife.com providing all military wives with resources and tips to help them on their journey as a military wife. Norine is on Twitter, Pinterest, and Facebook.

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