“Going Back to School with a Deployed Husband and 2 Kids Wasn’t an Option, So I Had to Find Another Way.”

NextGen MilSpouse is going beyond traditional career tips and tricks for military spouses! We are sharing the real stories of working military spouses (just like you!) and their professional success stories on Wednesdays. 

"You are only a failure if you give up," says working military spouse Kylie Hastings.

Name: Kylie Hastings

Years as a military spouse:


Tell us your job title/profession:

Writer and Content Creator

Is this full-time, part-time, hourly, contract or freelance work?

Full time and Freelance

How long have you been working in this career field?

3 years

Do you work in an office, telecommute from home (or Starbucks), or a little bit of both?


Tell us one thing you love about your job.

I get to do what I love. I decided I wanted to be a writer, no matter what I was writing! Now I get to work somewhere where that is my entire job and it’s very exciting for me.

How did you get this position? Was it a resume, referral, job fair? Spill your magic.


I made a resume on the site, had an updated LinkedIn, and a resume I made and applied to every job possible in my area – even some that weren’t exactly what I wanted – until I got the job I did want.

What is your No. 1 tip for a military spouse on the hunt for a job?

Make a professional and updated resume (Military One Source can help you!) Then get on every job site – Indeed.com, MadSkills, LinkedIn, even Craig’s List – and apply to every job you might want, even if you aren’t qualified!

How do you feel about failure?

You are only a failure if you give up. If something doesn’t work, change your strategy and try again.

What’s the biggest challenge you’ve faced while trying to maintain a career while living the military lifestyle?

Not having the right degree for what I wanted to do. Going back to school with a deployed husband and 2 kids (and already having student loans) wasn’t an option, so I had to find another way.

What is the best piece of career advice you’ve ever received? Tell us the worst too, while you’re at it.

Best advice: Just apply, even if you aren’t qualified.

Worst advice: Put everything you’ve ever done on your resume.

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Who is in your support squad (i.e. spouse, neighbor, bff) and what role do they play in supporting your career?

My husband and my mom. They will read what I’ve written and not sugarcoat their critiques. Every time I come up with a new strategy to further my career my mom will give advice and my husband will say, “whatever you want to do!” There’s never any “you can’t do that.”

Do you and your spouse or partner split household tasks? How do you do it?

I’m still home more than he is, but we both work on getting the kids to bed, and we share the responsibility of getting the food cooked and kitchen cleaned. I do the other inside stuff and he handles the outside stuff!

Share your best life-hack for saving time or sanity during the work week:

Not every meal has to be gourmet.

Three or 4 planned meals during the week and then the rest are eat-what-you-want, leftovers, and the occasional hot dogs or pizza. As long as we eat, and it’s relatively healthy, we’re doing good.

Tell us one piece of tech you couldn’t live without that isn’t your phone:

My Mac. I write everything on there, create graphics, edit videos – you name it and I can probably use my Mac for it!

Favorite app for making the most of your day?

Slack. I communicate with all my coworkers on there.

Must-have song on your productivity playlist?

Good to be Alive – Andy Grammar

If you had an extra hour in your day, what would you do with it?

Finish my novel.

If you were a superhero, what would be your super power?

Telepathy. The better you understand people, the better you can write about them!

Are you a working military spouse? Do you want to share your career tips and tricks? Fill out the MilSpouses Who Work It Q&A today. Click here to complete our form. 



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