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I’m clueless when it comes to planning my husband’s military promotion ceremony. I mean, his promotion is his promotion, right? I don’t need to do anything.
Let’s be real.
His promotion means we I will invite his parents to the ceremony and arrange their lodging and transportation to and from the ceremony.
His promotion means we I will order the food and cake (am I the only one who thinks service members eat way too much cake?) for the post-promotion reception.
His promotion means we I will be obligated to follow the military traditions and customs which are a mystery to me.
Am I the only one who feels the panic of unwritten expectations regarding my husband’s promotion?
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The 5 Most Common Questions Military Spouses Ask About Military Promotions
We just found out that my husband was selected. I’m so proud of him. Should I post his promotion on Facebook?
You can #humblebrag about your service member’s selection until you’re blue in the face. Many military spouses will post a photo of their service member in uniform with the message of “I’m so happy to share that my man made (fill in the rank here)” followed by a snippet of his accolades.
Here are two things to consider before you post on Facebook:
- Does your service member want you to post about his selection? He may want to be the one to share the news on Facebook. Not sure? Ask him.
- For every person selected, there is someone who wasn’t picked up. It sucks when your service member wasn’t picked for promotion. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t post your happy promotion news on Facebook. I’m just saying you may want to stop and think before you post.
What should I wear to his promotion?
The official recommendation is business casual attire. I recommend wearing a solid-colored outfit that complements your service member’s uniform.
Many military spouses will wear dresses to their husband’s promotion ceremony, but if you are a slacks and blouse gal, then wear pants. Many wives will embrace a patriotic wardrobe on that day by wearing red, white or blue. If that’s you, go ahead and show off your stars and stripes.
If you don’t want to wear an Americana spirit dress, then don’t.
You want to be comfortable and dressy for the ceremony. Most likely a photographer will be there taking pictures.
The same fashion advice applies to your children. My then 4-year-old daughter refused to wear a dress to her father’s promotion ceremony a few years back.
She wanted to wear her bathing suit.
We compromised by letting her wear a casual (not itching dress) with her sparkle Toms. We were all relieved when she agreed to wear her cotton dress.
What am I expected to do during the promotion ceremony?
Traditionally a spouse pins on the new rank during the promotion ceremony. If your husband wants you to do that, he will tell you. If he doesn’t mention it, ask him who he wants to pin him. If he wants you or his children to pin him, practice pinning the night before the ceremony.
Pinning isn’t complicated but depending on the pin and the uniform it can be harder than it looks. My hands often shake when a crowd is watching me pin my husband and shaking hands makes that short moment feel like forever.
Don’t be offended if your husband has his father, his sister, his commanding officer, your kids or his chaplain pin the new rank on his uniform.
Should I buy him a gift for his promotion? What should I buy?
A small gift isn’t a requirement, but it is a thoughtful gesture.
Promotions will be few and hard between in his military career so why not buy a gift for him? My husband has been promoted 3 times in 16 years and I’ve always gotten him a gift.
Here are 3 ideas for a promotion gift:
- Celebratory Cigars. A box of cigars is a classy way to mark the occasion. Holt’s Cigars has 550 premium, handcrafted brands, as well as machine made cigars, cigar samplers and cigar accessories. Holt’s Cigars offers a 10% military discount for active military, veterans and retirees, National Guard members and Reserves. Here’s how you can score this military discount.
- Engraved Pen. You can order an upscale pen and that can be his gift. Many people will have the pen engraved with his name, rank and promotion date.
- Something New for His Dress Uniform. Our husbands have the basic requirements for their dress uniforms and nothing more. Visit the uniform shop on your military installation and purchase a bit of flare for his dress uniform. The employees at the uniform shop can help you pick out an appropriate gift. Ask about cuff links, tie tacks and belt buckles.
Do we host a party or a luncheon after his promotion ceremony? What do we put on the cake?
Your service member may want to host a small reception after the promotion ceremony and traditionally, yes, there is cake. Even if it’s 9 a.m.
If the ceremony is later in the morning, you may host a light lunch of sandwiches and cake or offer to take your guests to a restaurant following the ceremony.
In regards to cake, I’ve opted for a rectangular cake that says “congratulations” along with my husband’s new rank. For example, it could say “Congratulations Master Chief” with the emblem pin.
If your local bakery doesn’t feel comfortable putting his battalion’s logo or a military emblem on the cake, you can have the United States flag or your service’s flag put on the cake.
Congratulations on your husband’s promotion. Remember this ceremony should be a moment of joy, not anxiety. You deserve to enjoy this day as much as your service member.
Throw on your favorite dress, give him a box of cigars and smile for the camera. Oh, and don’t forget to pick up the cake. It isn’t a promotion ceremony without a cake.