After all the talk about “Dear Mom on the iPhone,” we realized that military spouses are often “that” person. Our phones stand for so much more that others might realize…
Dear MilSpouse on the iPhone,
We get it. We know why you’re tethered to your iPhone. Why it never leaves your side. Why you stop mid-meal, even though you’re out with friends, to check to see if that latest ding is the i’m-okay-can’t-talk-now message you’ve been waiting for. Don’t apologize, we don’t think you’re rude.
We know you aren’t ignoring your children because you’re on your phone. You’re uploading a video to cheer up your spouse halfway across the globe. You’re keeping him connected as his children grow and change … your videos are his joy.
We never get offended when you tell us “gotta go … she’s calling” and we never wonder who “she” is. We know.
We know that your iPhone has become your teddy bear. Your comfort blanket. Your lifeline.
Your iPhone is your lover. Your co-parent. Your peace of mind.
Your phone gives you freedom, allowing you to take your spouse everywhere you go so you don’t miss a precious call, a message, or an email that gives you a much appreciated heads up that family dinner is on tonight.
Or maybe you’ve PCSed a million miles away from your friends, your family, your home.
We know that you might be talking to your friends from your last duty station who miss you terribly, but are giving you words of encouragement, telling you that your paths will cross again in our small, small world.
Perhaps you’re talking with your sister while she’s in labor, even though you’d sworn, years ago, that you’d be there wiping her brow, cheering her on, crying with joy by her side. Or maybe Grammy is sick and the best medicine and care you can provide is the sound of your voice.
We know that you’re doing your best to balance and blend your many roles. Your iPhone is your office, your classroom, your career. With your phone, you take over the world. You can take time away from work to volunteer at your child’s school or make that midday FRG meeting.
So don’t worry, next generation military spouses. Don’t feel guilty. Our military spouse brothers and sisters from generations past wouldn’t have done it any differently. Where they struggled for information, connection, and free-flowing communication, we hold our family and friends in the palm of our hands.
Sending you much love and support,